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Soul Shock - The Real Soul Mate Phenomenon
By Steve Gunn, Sat Dec 10th
SOUL SHOCK - by Steve Gunn internationally-acclaimed psychic and healer An excerpt from his new eBook about Soul Mates 'When Two SoulsConnect'
'The human heart feels things the eyes cannot see, and knows what the mind cannot understand.' -Robert Vallett If you’ve met someone who’s changed you forever If you love someone so much you realize you just weren’t alivebefore them If you’ve met someone who’s awakened you to the unbelievablebeauty of existence If you’ve met someone who is more you than even you are If you miss someone so much you can’t even conceive of existingwithout them If you've lost someone and it feels like your soul left withthem then read on… Typical of many cases I deal with is the story of Fiona andRobert. I first met Fiona when she booked a telephone reading and Irealized she was suffering a great deal of pain and confusionfrom the recent breakup of her relationship with Robert. Irecommended she seek healing and, a week later, she arrived atmy door. I wish I had a cent for every tear that has been shed on thatend of my sofa -- it’s a wonder it isn’t afloat by now. Seeingpeople in complete despair is a common occurrence for me but itnever gets any easier watching someone fall apart, not leastbecause I’ve been there. Some days, you just wonder what thehuman race is coming to when people can hurt others in the waythis girl was hurting. However, she was here now and I was goingto help her. Her total devastation and confusion was apparent and, as I readboth her energies and Robert’s, I realized this was a verystrong metaphysical ( soul mate ) connection, hence the level ofsuffering she was enduring. She told me her story, describedwhat seemed an ideal relationship – until, in the midst of it,Robert had turned tail and run without warning. To add to hergrief and despair, within a week he had hooked up with someoneelse and told her he wasn’t coming back. As in most of these cases, by tuning into him I knew he was inlove with her. Fiona, however, was in no position to believethis, not based on his actions. It was totally clear to me,however, that the bond between them was strong and had grownever stronger and stronger whilst they were together, to thepoint that it scared the hell out of Robert. How do you tell someone that a person they love has hurt thembecause they love them too much? How do you explain that the‘runner’ fears the intensity of the connection? I could tellthis other woman meant nothing to Robert and was just a shoulderfor him to cry on. But, to Fiona, it seemed he had been acheater and had callously lied about loving her. That’s a verynatural assumption when someone you trust totally turns a oneeighty and goes off with someone else without warning. For those of us who are emotionally and spiritually open tolove on any level, the idea of someone running from happiness isbizarre and cruel in the extreme. Fiona was struggling to makesense of it and wasn’t winning at all, which added to herimmense grief. As I began her healing and looked at what had happened to herenergies, I realized she was suffering from what I call ‘soulshock.’ When someone you have a deep connection with suddenlypulls away, the dis-connect leaves you feeling as if your soulhas left your body, like an empty shell. You just can’t get backto reality and you can feel as if you simply exist. This experience is similar to grieving the death of a loved oneand I know many counselors, at least those who accept andunderstand connections, who will treat this pain in the same wayas a bereavement . What we're talking about here is not a conventional emotionalrelationship. A soul connection is the most powerful soul levelconnection with someone and when separations like this occur youjust can't "get over it" or "move on" however hard you try. Manypeople can't eat sleep or work for a long time, a lot end up onmedication and in counseling. Even after more cases than I can remember, it never fails toamaze me how powerful healing is and what a perfect tool it canbe for dealing with soul mate connections. I pulled Robert’senergy away from Fiona’s so that she wasn’t being tugged aroundlike a leaf in a gale by his confusion. This process forced outsome of her grief. Unexpressed emotions are debilitating and dangerous, so Iopened up her heart chakra and used a technique I call‘accelerated bereavement.’ This acceleration brings out thedespair and pain in a burst of crying that’s so deep you knowit’s from the soul. But, after twenty minutes or so, thisincredible pain eases and the subject calms. That’s exactly whathappened with Fiona. What is unique about soul connections is that we feel ourpartner’s and confusion and they feel ours. This creates atsunami of pain as the energy flows across our spiritual linkand bounces each of us around like two corks on a string.Putting a block in a place eases ‘soul shock’ tremendously, sothat’s what I did to allow Fiona a chance to get on her feetagain. As the weeks and months went by, I saw her and treated her on aregular basis. Throughout that time, she grew slowly butprogressively stronger, even as she continued to ache badly fromthe pain of separation from Robert. When you are separated froma soul mate, you miss your partner every minute of the day andmost days are nothing more than a torture of aching and needing.The soul mate connection is unlike a conventional relationshipfor, in these cases, the pain of separation doesn’t lessen. Somedays it feels as if your heart will burst out of your chest andfly to your true partner. Fiona experienced all of this and more, although with readingsand healing I was able to reduce the worst of the excesses
andkeep up her hope that the situation would resolve itself andRobert would come back. At times, she would call in total painand disbelief and ask how anything could hurt so much and whycouldn’t she just get over him? As always, I explained that aconnection so strong was something we have little control overand, in time, he would return. While we wait, all we can do isstay strong and accept what has happened. Trying to understandwhy just adds to the torture. In time, Robert did contact her. Fiona, however, found it verydifficult to talk to him. He frequently contradicted himself anddidn’t seem to have a clue what he was doing, how he felt orwhat he wanted. This, of course, made it much harder for her tobe in contact with the man she loved so much, as she stillstruggled to make sense of why he had run in the first place. This is a very common albeit totally bizarre and bewilderingphase that nearly always occurs in these relationships. Whilethe more aware soul feels the immense sense of pain and loss,the ‘runner,’ who mostly has a ton of issues, is absolutelyconfused by the power of the connection and will seem tocontradict themselves and not know quite what’s going on. It’scommon to hear ‘I love you,’ then a week later, ‘I don’t loveyou,’ and a host of other seemingly weird behaviors. Understand, however, that this is your soul partner strugglingto understand what’s going on within them, as they are alsototally overwhelmed by the feelings and confusion that theconnection brings. At this point, I asked Fiona to trust me and to follow somesimple rules for communication. She agreed when she realized thepresent interaction was confusing her even more. I asked Fionato set out what she wanted from Robert, make it clear to him,then to back away. To insist that, if and when he called, shedidn’t want to hear how bad his life was, especially after shehad offered everything to make him happy. And that if he couldnot be there for her, then to put the phone down. Staying strong in this phase takes an awful lot of guts andfaith when your runner seems so close to returning. To push themaway unless certain criteria are met is scary when you so fearlosing them again. But Fiona did it… And, as in most cases,after a while it worked. It’s said that runners return properlywhen the pain of separation is greater than the fear ofcommitment. And by refusing to negotiate on anything other than comingtogether properly, Fiona made Robert realize he had to face thisonce and for all or lose her. They met, they talked, she called me. Robert had accepted hecouldn’t go on as he had and he was prepared to face his fearsand give it a go. Many more meetings occurred before Fiona wassure he was ready and knew that he would face his fear ofcommitment. When finally they both came together again, and had put thepast behind them, Fiona asked Robert to come to me for a readingand consultation. Seeing a runner is a rare opportunity for me,because when most reconciliations occur, my work is done. Robert arrived and it was apparent he had no idea what toexpect. I gave him a psychic reading and saw what was going onwithin him and how he had struggled to make sense of the pastcouple of years. What he said was a real eye opener for me, arare chance to see how the incredible intensity of a soulconnection can scare the daylights out of someone seemingly sostrong and together. He started talking about a time before Christmas when herealized just how deeply he felt for Fiona and, although he hadalways shunned commitment of any sort, he had decided to ask herto marry him. On his way to buy a ring, he talked to a friendabout marriage and said he suddenly became very scared andunsure. He never did tell me what the friend said but whateverit was plugged deep into his fears. After that, instead ofasking her to marry him, Robert told Fiona it was over and thathe had found someone else. If you’re astounded reading this, so was I when I heard it. Histhinking was that he couldn’t go through with it and maybe hewasn’t good enough for her. What if he wasn’t ready, what if it didn’t work? All the otherfear and insecurity-based questions rose up in him. His thinkingwas if she thought he had someone else, she could move on andnot follow him. When runners run, they really do run. Robert had demonstratedabsolute mastery of the runner 180-degree speed turn. It wasobvious that this man was unsure about himself - never mind whathe could offer in a relationship. He made all his decisions fromthe head, not the heart. He mistakenly assumed Fiona could ‘getover it.’ It’s one of the most frustrating things when runnersmake assumptions and don’t give the other partner a chance.That’s just what this one did. However, now Robert was back and he was talking to me and thatmeant he wanted to understand what this was about and how hecould deal with it. This was a terrific omen for the couple’sfuture. The outcome was that Robert did start to deal with his demons.His karmic lesson was to realize that he couldn’t live life bypurely mental decisions. He learnt that his heart wouldn’t stayaway and that fighting the connection only hurt them both and,ultimately, didn’t work. I now have an invitation to their wedding on my desk Fiona and Robert’s case is very typical and, to my mind,reinforces the same message - the heart always wins in the end. For more information about WHEN TWO SOULS CONNECT, contact: Kick the Fish Publishing Phone: 941 627 6807 Web sites:http://www.topukpsychic.com/wtsc andhttp://www.naturalenergytherapy.comhttp://www.keen.com/uk+psychic Email: steve@topukpsychic.com About the author:Steve Gunn is an Internationally acclaimed Psychic, Healer andAuthor. Devisor of Natural Energy Therapies ( NET ) and Author of 'WhenTwo Souls Connect' the definitive guide to Soul Mates.
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