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"mended Heart"
By Gail Pursell Elliott, Fri Dec 9th
Many of us at some point in our lives have suffered from whatsome people refer to as a 'broken heart.' This of course is notreferring to our physical heart but an emotional condition thatcan affect our physical well being as well other aspects of ourlives. Even though we are not referring to a physical break, weoften treat a broken heart the way we would a broken arm. We putit in a cast, a thick protective coating that nothing canpenetrate. It is immobilized for an appropriate amount of timeso that healing has a chance to occur. It is important not todisturb it to avoid further trauma. If you ever have broken your arm, you know what it looks likewhen the cast is removed. It looks thinner, sometimes almostshriveled. It is covered with dead, discolored skin that has apretty foul odor. It is weak from lack of use. In some cases,therapy may be necessary to restore full mobility. And for anumber of years afterward, the location of the break, thoughhealed, may occasionally ache. When we have a broken bone, we are rushed to assistance so thatfurther complications do not result. If left untreated, we mightbe left with mild to severe disability that can be moredifficult to correct later. Depending upon the type and severityof the break, bone fragments may damage surrounding tissue,cause bleeding, and other types of internal trauma that mightlead to more serious conditions.
At no time are we told to 'just get over it.' We are given painmedication if necessary and are treated with some kind ofaccommodation to help us adapt to our daily lives until the boneis fully healed. The people in our lives treat us with extracaring and consideration. You don't feel it necessary to hide the fact that your arm isbroken. You know how long the cast should remain in place beforeremoving it. The rate of healing can be checked by radiology tomake sure the cast isn't removed too soon. There is a specifictreatment protocol and you are given instructions to follow. Ifthe circumstances surrounding what caused the break result inanxiety, it is acknowledged as real. Generally, one doesn't die from a broken arm. A broken armdoesn't feel humiliated, embarrassed, lost, or betrayed. Thereare some people, however, who have died from the results ofbeing broken hearted. Some felt they could not live with thepain and
ended it themselves. Others succumbed to physicalillnesses that developed through complications caused by theunrelenting stress of and an inability or unwillingness toforgive. Some are walking around with disabilities of varyingdegrees as a result of the same factors. These conditions arenot always obvious and sometimes deliberately hidden. A broken heart can be mended if it is acknowledged as a realinjury and not brushed off as something that will take care ofitself in time if left alone. Those of us who have mended heartshave often had to develop our own treatment protocols, some moreeffective than others. And afterward, like a broken bone thathas healed, there is always some residual evidence of thetrauma. Even if what was broken ends up being stronger than itwas before. Anyone who has suffered from a 'broken heart' will tell you thatthey would rather have a broken arm. It hurts less, heals fasterand you get more help with it. Have a Great Day and be good to yourself. You deserve it! Gail RESOURCES: If you or someone you know needs to access thehealing power of forgiveness or help in healing from grief, hereare some excellent resources. Forgiveness Workshops - "Connecting With The Healing Light ofForgiveness" Donna Kopitsy, MA, MSW, LUThttp://www.unitycommunitymall.com/workshops Contact Donna todayto arrange a workshop for your group! Crisis, Grief, and Healing - Tom Golden, LCSW www.webhealing.comA website packed with information, links and more! Tom Golden's wonderful book "Swallowed By A Snake: The Gift ofthe Masculine Side of Healing" can be ordered through theInnovations website click on Books and Posterswww.innovations-training.com Online Audio Workshops featuring: Sam Keen - "Living With Death"Rabbi Kushner - "When Bad Things Happen To Good People" TomAttig - "Relearning The World" Tom Golden - "Men and Grief"www.griefceu.com Sit back and listen through your computer tosome of the world's best presenters on the topic of healing fromloss.
About the author:Speaker, Author, Educator, Human Resources and TrainingConsultant, Gail Pursell Elliott is president and founder ofInnovations "Training With A Can-Do Attitude"TM - PromotingDignity and Respect, No Exceptions, in companies and communitiesnationwide. To receive Food For Thought messages via email jointhe website mailing list at www.innovations-training.com ContactGail at info@innovations-training.com
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