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Signs Of Infidelity
By Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, Sat Dec 10th
Infidelity has different faces...and different signs andpatterns. Yes, infidelity is complex. You probably know that or perhapsfeel the overwhelm and confusion. Most I work with find tremendous relief, a sense of control,confidence and power once they pinpoint the situational signs ofinfidelity.
Understanding IS the beginning of healing. Yes, there are general signs of infidelity that indicate thatyour husband or wife may be cheating. After you finish readingthis page you will find a link for those general signs ofinfidelity. But, to accelerate breaking free you need to dig into and naildown the signs and patterns of infidelity. Did you know there are 7 different kinds of affairs? Well, theremay be more, but after a couple decades of clinical work andresearch, I've identified 7. And, if you look carefully, you will find that each form ofinfidelity carries different signs and markers. Know thosespecific signs of infidelity and you can save yourself muchgrief. Let's begin here. One kind of affair I write about in my e-book is called, "MyMarriage Made Me Do It." Here are some signs and patterns you can expect in this kind ofaffair: 1. Expect that your spouse will have a very powerful attachmentto the other person. The other person will consistently be onher mind. Your spouse will shift energy away from you, thechildren, the household and her career to her affairrelationship. She will be focused, but not on you. Your spousewill attempt to push you away by avoiding you, ignoring you,closing off communication or walking away. 2. The affair will most likely be a long-term affair. It will bevery difficult for your spouse to walk away from the otherperson. He may try on a number of occasions but will continue togravitate back to the other person. He will hold on tenaciously.This is probably the first or only affair for your spouse. Yourspouse is not interested in playing or fooling around butpowerfully attaching to the other person. The other person isthe savior! 3. Don't believe
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that the affair was planned before hand becauseof a bad marriage. These affairs usually just happen. Theyusually happen with someone in close proximity: co-worker,neighbor, friend (frequently of friends with whom yousocialize), etc. The other person is usually the aggressor, yourspouse lacking the confidence to seek out the affair. Therationale that it happened because of a lousy marriage comesafter the affair is in bloom. 4. The more you try to persuade, convince or pursue, the morestrongly he will attach to the other person. He will perceiveyour efforts as weakness and will want to attach more intentlyto the other person whom he (at perhaps an unconscious level)deems to be the powerful and loving answer-to-all. 5. Efforts to use moral or religious arguments to call a halt tothe affair will be strongly resisted. Your spouse is not guidedby rightness or wrongness. These standards have not beeninternalized and do not carry much weight, especially when itcomes to the important chunks of her life. The actions andthoughts of your spouse primarily originate from her need toattach to another person. Any behavior or concept that servesthe purpose of maintaining the attachment will be valued. Othersare discarded. 6. Expect you will spend a significant amount of time andemotional energy in the next 2 to 4 years (especially if thereare children) attempting to resolve the relationship. Byresolve, I mean, coming to a point where each of you are fairlyfree of the emotional entanglement that holds you together andgenerates the pain and fear. It will be important for you toresolve the relationship whether you continue to be married orseparate and divorce. Does this fit your situation? Do you see the importance of understanding in-depth the signs ofinfidelity. Once you do, you will have many more optionsavailable that will help you break free. About the author:Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundredsof couples over the past two decades heal from the agony ofextramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his websiteat: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/ebook.htm
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