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Successful Dating And Marriage (1)
By Arthur Zulu, Sat Dec 10th
Chapter One “In a high-divorce society, not only are more unhappy marriageslikely to end in divorce, but in addition, more marriages arelikely to become unhappy." -- COUNCIL ON FAMILIES IN AMERICA. .................................................
When Japanese government officials conceived building an airportin Narita, little did they know that the airport will later cometo be associated with divorce. Even the engineers andarchitects, who dreamt up the plan, forgot to dream about wedlocks and goodbyes. Morpheus, the god of dreams, did not remindthem. Now, the term Narita divorce, has been coined for the newlywedswho on arrival at Narita Airport after a honeymoon, immediatelyhead to the court to file papers. Bad word! Marriages have been known to hit the rocks, the night after theweeding day. Some may wait to happen after the birth of thefirst child, while others may choose to after theirgolden jubilee. The story of broken marriages -- marital bliss turned maritalmisery, is worldwide. And this is happening despite an army ofpsychologists, psychiatrists, clergymen, and other counselorsoffering advice on marriage, including a horde of publicationson the subject. People have even written best-sellers, offeringadvice on broken families. Ask Inyanla Vanzant, the author ofthe book, Yesterday I Cried. Let's get some statistics. Britain has the highest ratein Europe (4 out of 10 marriages), Canada and Japan (1 out of 3marriages), Zimbabwe (2 out of every 5 marriage) and Spain (1out of 8 marriages.) Also in Australia, rates havequadrupled since the 1980's, and in the United States and otherlands, teenage mothers and children born out of wedlock, havebeen on the rise. In other countries, like Germany, the traditional family hastotally been abandoned. In that country, single persons andindividuals account for a majority of the families. And inFrance, people are marrying less, and divorcing more. The effect of broken families -- the oldest human institution --is already telling on us. What with the violence that we seearound us today? Family disintegration has led to the fall of great empires likeRome and Greece. May it not lead to the end of our civilization! But why are married couples increasingly getting divorcecertificates or simply living as roommates, or what has beencalled emotional divorce? Because they started their marriageswith the wrong foot. And head to the wrong people to seek advice-- marriage counselors. These series of articles will help you to get your marriage on agood start, and stay married. Because it will tell you God'sview about marriage. And since God is the creator and originatorof marriage, he is the best authority on this matter. In these series, you will find answers to questions that you mayhave asked such as: How can I find a compatible mate? What arethe rules of dating? How do I know if I am ready for marriage?What happens on the wedding day? What is needed for a successfulmarriage? How should disagreements be settled? What is my rolein the family? How can a husband get his wife's respect? Whydoes a wife need her husband's love? Who is the decision maker?What about the children? And many more… But first; folks, let us look out for the dangers in a marriage.Knowing these dangers, like a sailor knowing the location of thehidden rocks under the sea, will help you to find success inyour courtship and marriage, sex and happiness. So, what are they? Chapter Two "It seems much easier to fall in love than to stay in love."--DR. KAREN KAYSER. ................................................. Would you want to marry in haste and repent at leisure? No,folk. May that not be your destiny. But you see, marriage islike a packed theater with some uninterested spectators wantingto get out, and other interested ones waiting outside, wishingto get in. If you think though that marriage can solve all of yourproblems, you are mistaken. Ask a married friend. But it cangive you a measure of security and satisfaction if you play bythe rules. But we forget the rules before we rush into matrimony. And whena sailor forgets his navigation rules, he suffers a shipwreck. You see, people enter into marriage relationships with little orno preparation. If you were entering the university for example,you will be asked to sit for a qualifying exam. You may even beasked to show other supporting qualifications like the TOEFL ifyou were heading for a U.S. university.
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But these are small things compared to the permanentrelationship of marriage. Yet the only requirement in themarriage registry is your signature. Nothing else. However, there are dangers to watch out for just before youappend your signature to that marriage certificate. And what arethey? Failed Expectations People think of marriage as a kind of fiction story where thecharacters "live happily ever after." But it is never so.Because the great expectation of your Sleeping Beauty or PrinceCharming may turn out to be a bad dream. The love, attention andsupport that you badly craved before marriage may turn out to bea tale of rejection and disillusion. Incompatibility You may also discover after the marriage that both of you arepoles apart -- with different interests. Those characteristicswhich were hidden before the marriage now becomes manifest. Andit becomes a story of "if I had known." (No thanks to mismatchand your beguiling mate!) Conflict Your Happy Valley or Fortunate Isles, now turns to be abattlefield of squabbling, fighting, and God forbid -- physicalviolence. The very sweet words, like honeycombs which were usedto win your hand in marriage now become weapons of abuse and"war." Apathy It may be that you will one day find yourself saying: "I am nolonger interested." And then the marriage drags on and on, likea factory worker tolerating a bad job -- to keep body and soultogether. And one day, apathy turns to hate, and you findyourself telling your partner that the "game" is up! Money Do not deceive yourself thinking that money will make you happy.It does the opposite, says Paul Getty the American millionaire. Now suppose there is bickering over money in a joint venture? Orsuppose your previously rich spouse now suffers financialmisfortune? And you who were used to summer holidays in theVirgin Islands, and cruising in yachts in the Mediterranean nowsee poverty and hardship staring at you in the face? What willyou do? Parenthood You may find out that the love you had for your mate now beginsto drop when children start coming in. The reason may be thatyou no longer have time for each other, or your mate is nowgetting old. Is it time to sue for divorce? Deceit It may vex you to find out that you are living with an infidel,a betrayal of trust, and not a friend and confidant. Now,suppose you find out that your mate lied to you about his or herhistory before the marriage? Or what if you find that your matewas cheating on you -- committing adultery? Sex Suppose your partner starts depriving you of sex? Or what ifsex, which was supposed for enjoyment now becomes mechanical?Some have even used sex as a bargain tool : Buy me a Swiss goldwatch, and I will give you sex! Some wives have woken up after the wedding day to find out thattheir husbands were impotents, or eunuchs. Husbands have alsobeen told by their wives that they would die if they had sextogether. Because they have husbands who satisfy their sexualdesires in the spirit world! What would you call that? Superstition This may also affect your marriage depending on where you live.Barrenness, miscarriages, unseen attacks, deaths and brokenmarriages have been supposedly caused by wicked spirits. Doesthis bother you? Maybe not. But know that wicked spirits exist. In-laws If you allow your in-laws to intrude into your family, they mayruin your marriage. Both of you are now one, and should be ableto solve your marital problems without frequenting your parents,or relations for advice. Friends What kinds of associates do you and your mate have? Are theyunwholesome friends? They will not help your marriage. Know thatbad company can corrupt good manners. These are some of the things may shipwreck a marriage. They maynot be the case with your family. But know that there is noperfect family on this earth. So there must be one kind ofproblem or the other in your family. Now what are required tomake a marriage successful? To be continued (EXCERPTED FROM THE BOOK, “SUCCESSFUL DATING AND MARRIAGE.” THISTEN-CHAPTER BOOK IS AVAILABLE FOR SALE. INTERESTED BUYERS SHOULDCONTACT THE AUTHOR.) ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer, playwright, andpublished author. He also writes short stories, scripts, essays,and poems. For his works and FREE helps for writers, goto:http://controversialwriter.tripod.com mailto:controversialwriter@yahoo.com Web search: Arthur Zulu
About the author:ARTHUR ZULU is an editor, book reviewer, playwright, andpublished author. He also writes short stories, scripts, essays,and poems.
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