Negative Emotions Are Beneficial - If You Know What To Do With Them
By Mary Ann Copson
I believe that the most important thing in the world is that you feel good. When you feel good, you are most likely to experience your greatest growth and evolutionary change.
The problem for me is that I readily seem to find the negative in any situation. I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to stop dwelling on the negative. But then I realized that something that comes so naturally to me could actually be a benefit.
Negative emotions have well understood evolutionary beneits. Negative emotions like fear, loss, and aggression signal the activation of our flight or fight response. When we experience negative emotions, we have a feeling of aversion, which sets us on course to identify what is wrong and eliminate it. Negative emotions and thoughts are associated with a survival alert that activates a reaction to fight, flight or conserve - each reaction with obvious evolutionary value. That is all well and good. But it still seems kind of negative. In contemplating this, I linked up with a principle from the teachings of Abraham and The Law of Attraction – “desire is born out of contrast.” What this means is that when you are experiencing something negative in you it prompts you to connect with what you really want in your life.
“When you find yourself in the midst of negative emotion... now here's a new twist to it. You are all understanding are you not that when you are feeling negative emotion it is your Inner Being telling you that you are RESISTING something that you WANT!! That is not an easy thing for everyone to understand ...” --Abraham-Hicks
If you hate your job, that negative experience is what summons from you your desire – your dream – for the kind of job you really want.
If you are in a "bad" relationship it prompts you to identify your desire to have an intimate, loving, and kind relationship.
Experiencing the negative, seeing the negative, identifying the negative all act like a wake-up call for you to embrace your dreams and desires. Bringing forth your dreams and desires in the world is what pulls you forward in your evolutionary growth and
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development.
Negative emotions become troublesome when you spend all of your time there. When something negative happens there is a tendency to embellish the event and tell your sad and sorry story to anyone who will listen – even if you are just telling it to your self over and over again. We can so easily get stuck in the negative and feel compelled to grind it into reality.
If you are experiencing something negative, the trick is to quickly identify what desire or dream it is conflicting with – and then get off the negative.
When you are experiencing a negative experience quickly get the message you are sending to yourself about what it is that you really want and move on. Identify the dream or desire that is calling to you and put your attention there.
Now then, isn’t that a more creative, resourceful, fun, and useful way to handle anything negative that is in your life?
Copyright (c) 2008 Mary Ann Copson
Mary Ann Copson is the founder of the Evenstar Mood & Energy Wellness Center for Women. With Master's Degrees in Human Development and Psychology and Counseling, Mary Ann is a Certified Licensed Nutritionist; Certified Holistic Health Practitioner; Brain Chemistry Profile Clinician; and a Health, Wellness and Lifestyle Coach. Reconnect to your physical, emotional, mental, psychological and spiritual natural rhythms atevenstaronline.com
